The United Nations (Women) has claimed that 2 out of 4 (50%) respondents felt that “Women Provoke Men by the Way they Dress.” And 2 out of 5 (40%) respondents felt that “Women moving Around at Night Deserve to be Sexually Harassed.”
We are a 21st Century advance and open minded society. We claim to be very well qualified and ultra-modern. Sadly, we are leading a very cheap and degraded mentality. We all are witness to the growing number of cases of Crime Against Women. We read and hear about rapes, molestation, acid-attacks, domestic violence, bride-burning and much more. Why so in an ultra-modern and advance society? There are a number of reasons, our so called society has ready on tips. Today, I will try and counter these ‘Wildly Imaginative Explanations’ given for increasing number of rapes in our society.
1. She was Drunk!
A quite common explanation for justifying rapes goes that these days a lot of girls have started drinking hard drinks SO they get raped! What an alcoholic explanation!!!
Guys, when you are drunk, if someone robs you of all you have, will it be justified as your fault? I know the answer, of course, is NO! And what if the robbers come and tell you that since you were drunk, you ought to be robbed!
A large group of people also feel that women drinking alcohol is not permitted as per our religion / customs / tradition. Oh really?! Which religion / custom / tradition agrees with men drinking alcohol?! Silence.
So guys, when the hangover of the desi thharra is hung-up, give it a thought.
2. She was Out Late at Night!
A majority of Indian men and women (as well) feel that girls should not venture out late at night. This late can sometime mean as early as 7PM or 8PM! When asked why so, they would reply because it’s not safe out there! Fine. Agree, it’s not safe. But the bigger question is; who makes it so unsafe? It’s we, the boys! Boys rape girls, be it early morning, broad daylight or late at night. So is it not justified to not allow boys to move out of their homes after sunset? Conventionally, they prevent and monitor the criminals but our Indian society has its own ways and they regulate, monitor and bind the victims when it comes to Crimes Against Women!
Last year, I came across a case where a man was hauled by an Inspector of the local Police Station for he was sitting in his car and talking to his friend (male) on a relatively less used road at around 10 in the night. Inspector did so because in past there has been cases of robbery in the past. This man was so agitated and hurt that he filed a complaint with the Deputy Commissioner of Police against the Inspector. Come on! Don’t we do it every day with the women around us?! Don’t they feel agitated?
Actually, it’s not the people who don’t allow girls to go out late who are to be blamed but the people who are forcing them to force women to stay at home after sunset. And it’s the sick mentality to say that women who are out on roads or public places at late night deserve to be sexually harassed! Wait for the day when girls would get in a group and make you parade naked on roads as soon as you step out of your homes after sunset!
3. She Provoked Him!
This is the worst of all and most inhuman explanation given by our society for rapes. She provoked him! Seriously? But how? Because she looked very pretty with a little extra make-up? Or because she wore a knee length skirt? Or because she had a pretty smile? Or because she held her male friend’s hand while out in market or in public transport? Or because she was humming a romantic Bollywood number? Or what else?
She bore the pain for 9 months and gave you birth. She made you feed on herself so that you survive. She cared for you. She kept hungry so that you can eat your full meal. She loving helped you as a sister. She cared for you. She stood with you in the most crucial years of your life. She supported you and with her by your side you faced the world boldly as a good companion. She left her family to put together one for you. She did everything she could. All this could not provoke you to respect her and many like her but a bit of skin seen here and there on her body provoked you to rape her, to molest her, to attack her with acid, to kill her! Isn’t it funny and sad as to how we modify things as per our convenience?!
Guys, be provoked for the right thing and not for what simply pleases you.
This list of explanations is quite long but these three, I believe, are quite comprehensive.
Girls as young as less than a year are being raped. Recently, an eight month old girl was raped. What was her fault? Was she not properly dressed that provoked the rapist? Was she drunk? Was she roaming out late at night?
Think about the actual reason for rapes and other crimes against women. I am sure you will get the actual answer from the depths of your heart.
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